Whenever you are upset, can’t get what you want, get caught in fights or power struggles, feel sad or depressed, or just unhappy it is never about what is going on now. It is not about this person in front of you, it is your past repeating itself in your reality.
This is a very challenging belief because we are so attached to the blame game. Anytime something is not going our way, typically the right way then we believe someone else is to blame. To blame is not to take any accountability for what is happening and leads us to our sense of being a victim, a victim of the world around us – but the truth is we are all caught up by our past.
In the moment this is also a very difficult belief to remember, for even after 25 years of continuous evidence to the truth of it I still need to remind myself especially when someone is telling a current story of doom and gloom. I still get caught up occasionally, until I remember one of my first lessons in POV and that is only 2% of what is going on now has to do with the present.
When someone describes a very difficult or painful present situation I remember my learning and it then becomes an adventure, a journey into the past, to see without judgment to the root of the situation. It takes time, patience and willingness but so far in every case when we do the past reveals itself. Naturally the people are different, the location different and the situation somewhat different but the dynamics are the same and the emotion is always the same. In fact it is the emotion that drives the creation of the present situation.
To a greater or lesser extent we are all prisoners of our past and if we are unwilling to examine and reframe it we are doomed to repeat it. This is the only reason to revisit your past, to recognize the dynamics and change them, without blame. This is the basis of all our healing and often it can be difficult but the rewards are immediate and heart opening.
Imagine the joy of being free of our past, that each new day is really that, a new day. And we then get to sit back and watch the universe reveal itself veil by veil.