Most of us know that under every problem in our lives lies a grievance. Whether its with someone or something, in order to clear any problem we need to unearth the grievance and do our healing. Typically, if we clear the grievance the problem falls away as there is no longer a foundation for the issue.
Sounds easy doesn’t it? Unfortunately we have sought to hide our grievances and act as good, nice, sweet, dead people, and it is not only that. We then use the
grievance as a reason to attack others, which is not very helpful, or even to attack ourselves but we need to recognise that we were not right about this grievance. The fact that it is a grievance and therefore a source of pain means we misunderstood what was really going on and once we find the truth the pain will no longer be there, therefore no grievance.
Recently in China I was working with a focus person who was really really funny. It took a little time to reveal this gift but once it came out everyone was in stitches with laughter. She had strong trickster energy and loved to play practical jokes on people; however each time she had done this it had resulted in people feeling hurt or angry, so she had repressed her gifts and acted serious instead, which made everything difficult.
It was clear that, while she had these obvious gifts, they carried some negative energy when they were used. We tracked the source of this energy to a grievance she had with her mother. There was a lot of hurt and heartbreak compounded by a layer of guilt and this is what polluted her gifts. Each time she used her gifts there was a sting in the tail, which naturally added to her burden of guilt and subsequent withdrawal.
This process got me thinking about myself. Where do I find certain gifts a burden or hide them from others in the belief they will not be understood or appreciated? I now see that the problem is never the gifts but the grievances and guilt that have become intertwined with them. I now recognise that no gift is a curse, but that we have cursed ourselves with our grievances.
The next step for me is to become honest about my grievances and to do my healing which always includes a lot of forgiveness. This in turn will free me to be myself and not inflict my issues on the people around me. Also, I will commit to use and express my gifts as they are sacred and are to be shared, and my life will be back on track with all cylinders firing!