Why would fathers and mothers who sit in positions of power not act against such sexual abuse and allow it to spread throughout communities? One of the answers seems that this is a total blind spot for them. We all have blind spots and that is why we need friends and partners to point them out to us. However, many of us have dissociated from much of our past especially the emotional aspects of our past and each time we do that we lose more of our ability to be empathic, to feel what others are feeling and to join them emotionally in their experience.
We are great at creating systems and technologies to sort out our problems but until we are willing to look deeply within ourselves, we will not be truly effective at creating a loving caring society. This is because we can only see as deeply inside another person as we are willing to look within ourselves. In order to help people we have to have the courage to leave our safe havens and journey into the world around us, connecting with everyone we meet.
We all have blind spots and this is because of our past experiences, our beliefs and our self-concepts. But also because we have a deep belief that if we care then we will get hurt, so the thinking goes: “in order to stay safe, best to close my heart and don’t care because if I don’t care too much then I will be safe. If I don’t care and something traumatic happens to another then it will not affect me too much.”
And for a while you might be safe but others around you will probably suffer a lot. Today, we commit to find the courage to go beyond our fear of caring too much. We commit to open our eyes and our hearts to recognize our blind spots and expand the bandwidth of our awareness of what is going on for other people. Who around you could really do with some caring today?