This week Robin Williams committed suicide. Every suicide is a tragedy and a loss for all those that are left behind.

As the story of the last stage of his life comes out it seems that he faced a number of challenges including bankruptcy, and for all his amazing success it is hard to imagine that he was in such a situation. The more that comes out about this last stage of his life the more we realize he was looking in many directions for a solution. It is said he hoped to get a new TV contract and that was cancelled, he was then trying to sell his ranch worth millions but that did not happen.

Apparently he was trying to solve a problem by doing something; he obviously had the belief that to get out of a bad situation he had to do something. So finally when he ran out of finding something that he could do that provided relief from his situation he came to  the point where there was only one thing left to do. And that was to kill himself.

Whenever we are caught in the place of thinking the answer to every problem is to do something then we increasingly put ourselves in danger. This is typically what happens when we are caught in the masculine part of our mind which worships at the altar of ‘doing’, which first makes our life hard work, then boring and finally kills us.

The first step in solving our problems and impossible situations is not by doing something but by feeling the underlying emotions. This is the first step in bringing about an intelligent and positive outcome. Every problem is an emotional issue and this is so hard for people to get their heads around. What many of us do not realize is that if we bury emotions like failure or heartbreak or survival then at some point if we do not engage with that emotion and transform it we will create a situation that brings that emotion to the surface. If we do not have the emotional maturity to then engage with the emotions we will do something that will lead to a lack of intelligence and ongoing negative patterns.

Without the feminine, without emotional maturity, without understanding and being willing to ask for help, we are in danger. The masculine is essential to help us move forward but without the feminine we will head for the nearest cliff.

It is essential that we understand this process or we put ourselves in danger; none of us is immune, no matter how creative, famous or successful. We can take a different approach if we start to go down a long desperate slide. Robin Williams was a genius and an extraordinary talent; in his death he gave us one last gift and we would honour him by learning it.

With love, Jeff and Sue