When someone close to us who we really love was in a place of shame, even mortification, we remembered one of Psychology of Vision’s most helpful tools for us to escape our blocks to leadership. Typically these blocks to leadership come up as personalities that attack us, even torture us. All of us are familiar with those voices in our head that keep telling us there is something wrong with us: we did not study enough at school, we are too old or too fat or too stupid. These voices tell us we will fail and will make a fool of ourselves. They ask, who do we think we are that we believe we could ever make a difference to others’ lives? Just look at ours!
Each time we hear the voice of our personalities we shrink a little, we withdraw and pull back from the opportunities that life sends us and we are not available to answer the calls for help. Do not underestimate the power of our personalities; they can keep us locked in addiction, in shame and sometime total paralysis. The average human being has thousands of personalities whose task is to keep us from our true nature.
Anyway, what to do when they are active? Firstly recognise them for being personalities, and you know that because they are telling you how bad you are. Remember that your higher mind would never ever speak to you in such terms. Now, recognising a personality or a number of them has you by the short and curlies, know that this always happens when someone around you is really in trouble and could use a friend. Take a second and then ask yourself the question, “Who needs my help?” and listen for the answer. Whoever’s name pops in to your mind, reach out for them, contact them, be there for them and when you do they will be in a tough place and you just support them. Don’t do therapy on them; just be a friend and when you have finished you will feel expanded.
In the Leadership area of the Triangle, there is the fight between shrinking and expanding. When your personalities are torturing you, you are shrinking; when you start reaching out and answering the calls for help then you will expand, and we will continue on this path until one day we will live a life of expansiveness and leadership.
Jeff and Sue