As a Child of God we have many splendid gifts, and like all gifts there are two sides to them. We can use them in the service of our ego or in the service of our higher mind; it seems that the gift most of us have worked hard at perfecting in the service of our ego is denial.
This last week here in the UK we saw the effects of 10 years of denial on a leading politician where the denial of a relatively minor speeding offence finally ended his career prematurely. Actually along the way he had lost a lot, namely his wife, his child and now his career.
All of us are in denial to a greater or lesser extent; the roots of negative denial are in our fear and our belief that we know what we are doing and where certain paths will lead us. So it seems obvious that our denial is also a denial of the unfolding of our lives, denial of our process and finally the denial of our purpose in this life. The extent of our denial can eventually be measured in our feelings of loss and our lack of direction culminating in a sense of meaninglessness and valuelessness.
A number of years ago a friend of ours who had a business in London was facing failure, bankruptcy and the loss of the business he had built up over 15 years. One of the contributing factors to the situation was the poor bookkeeping and records reflecting the real state of his business. Now in his mind he certainly had a clear belief of where his business and his life was going, but with our coaching he slowly let go of his beliefs about what would happen, healing the feelings that were present and still moving forward. Step by step things unfolded, friends and family stepped in and his business was restructured and saved. Some bitter truths had been faced, some desperate feelings felt, and now he was back in business.
Then a large foreign company came into the market place looking to buy a London based company similar to his. After looking at a number of companies they approached his and made a significant offer to buy his entire operation. After the transaction he asked why they bought his company and the reply was, “because your books accurately reflected the state of your business!”
For the most part we have no idea what is in our best interest. We blind ourselves to the signs we get due to our fear and so we live in a state of denial. However all our denial is, in truth, the denial of any form of greater intelligence. Our denial often locks us into impossible situations where there seems no way out. It blinds us to the intelligent action we could be taking that would build our lives and teach us the power of trust.
Ask yourself: Is there something I’m denying right now? If you are facing major challenges or you are in an impossible situation then you are in denial in some way. Perhaps you are going full speed ahead and are blind to your process. Or maybe you’re not being honest, especially about something negative, and pretending everything is fine. Would you be willing to recognise that your denial is working against yourself? Would you win back the courage to face what you need to face, and change what you need to change, for your own sake, and for the sake of the people around you?
Jeff and Sue