Since Chuck and Lency Spezzano’s workshops in the UK in July I have been exploring and challenging any untrue feminine energy and also any untrue masculine energy. The untrue feminine takes the place of the victim, feeling unable to find a voice to speak out, sacrificing and trying to manipulate circumstances and building up resentment or worse. The untrue masculine wants to prove itself, dominating situations, being right and ignoring or victimizing others who appear to be in the way.
This painful imbalance exists inside each of us, whether we are a man or a woman, and it also plays out in our relationships, in our businesses and in our world. It blocks our success because it blocks heartfelt partnership and it generally makes life difficult, that’s for sure.
The underlying antidote in this conflict is self-love. With self-love, there could never be a war, or even a fight, because we wouldn’t see any bad guys out there. With self-love, we do not attack others or ourselves; we do not judge; we don’t have to sacrifice ourselves or prove ourselves. We forgive our own mistakes as we forgive others their mistakes. Both the untrue feminine and the untrue masculine behaviours are two sides of the same coin – our lack of valuing and loving ourselves.
Clearing out the ways I attack and de-value myself, with the long list of associated mistakes and failures, is not the summer holiday I had in mind. However it turns out that diving into this daunting whirlpool and coming up for air has given me a glimpse of a cleaner wider view, a new sense of myself and my contribution: by no means perfect, but somehow refreshed.
Whatever you are up to this summer, I hope you feel revitalized by the break. The change from our normal routine (in my case travelling, teaching and busyness) is a great opportunity to clear whatever stands in the way of success and good fortune, which are the chief dynamics of self-love. Then, and only then, can we receive all that we deserve for what we do and who we are.
With love, Sue