In my recent workshop I was reminded of the importance of us letting go of our broken dreams, the dreams we had as children about how our lives would be typically starting with our family. I believe every one of us just wanted a loving caring family with a Mum and Dad who had achieved the highest grades at parenting school. So for many of us the broken dreams started early.
Then onto school and our friendships and later our own relationships, then families and careers: has any of it turned out as we dreamed it would? Probably not. Often we have buried this stash of broken dreams and we are not consciously aware of them or even how many there are but if we look carefully we can see the signs.
Firstly there is a difficulty letting go. We may have learned all the principles and techniques of how to let go, we have read the books and know, without a shadow of a doubt, that letting go is an important lesson that will make our lives work more easily without feelings of sadness or regret or even depression. Yet even with all this information we can’t seem to let go of someone or something. Sadness and memories haunt us and we are plagued with the eternal question “What if ……?”
Secondly we seem to have lost our drive. We find ourselves adjusting and then accommodating to many aspects of our lives and we seem to have the deep-seated belief that nothing will ever really work out; that happy relationship, that fulfilling career is just a mirage, fool’s gold. We become unlucky and the world seems to be conspiring against us and so often we slave away just to watch it all get snatched away time after time. Or we just give up and learn to put a good face on the oppressive misery that drives our indulgencies and addictions. I exaggerate but only a bit – basically we feel like our life is going nowhere!
We are now firmly caught in the jaws of the ego and the more we struggle the tighter they seem to become. What is driving all this is our collection of broken dreams that we have not let go of. Our dreams, even the good ones, will be broken. It is part of our psychological and spiritual evolution because even the best dreams we come up with are always missing one element, that part of us that is our Higher Mind, our God self, the Creator. Our dream was the best we could come up with and it is a mere shadow of our destiny.
Intuitively ask yourself how many broken dreams you have and during the course of this day imagine yourself going through a ritual of letting go, however that might work for you. It is essential that we do let go of this tangle so it no longer affects our lives and we can regain that sense of expectancy that good things are about to and will happen. Then the changes we face will contain a little more of heaven’s plan for happiness.