As the launch of our first book comes closer and closer so has our process. Large chunks of buried pain have pushed their way to the surface and it is therefore a good time to remember what is important in this rapidly changing world.
I have constant lessons in the importance of emotional maturity and by this I don’t mean that on occasions we don’t lose it. Emotional maturity does not mean we don’t get angry, it is just that when we do we do not stay there long and not only that but we recognise some basic truths about our situation and the feelings that accompany it. One, we are never upset for the reasons we think we are and, secondly, all the upset is really about something in our past and not the present. Finally, we can only be upset if our ego is confronted. And while most of us know this is true it sometimes takes a little time to give up being right and take the lesson.
The most important thing to remember is it is all about relationships. So often in our lives we make it about so many other things, what we are doing or our busyness or money or health but in truth if we get the relationships right every thing else will work out. It is essential for us to be aware of what is going on for our partner and this week I had another reminder of one of the big lessons in relationship.
If your partner asks you not to do something and you go ahead and do it then you have made an awful mistake. You have now set your relationship back in a big way and you will need to really apply yourself to rebuild the trust and confidence that every relationship needs to work well. Even if your partner is 100% wrong about what is going on you still need them to be successful at the next step of your relationship. This is true in any relationship so it is essential for you not to go against your partner’s wishes. It is also true that when we do agree on something we do everything possible to do what we have agreed to do.
Without good relationships everything becomes wooden until finally it becomes meaningless. We avoid this when we set out on a journey of emotional awareness and building relationships. This, to the best of our ability, is what we teach and have written about in our book and while we have done this for many reasons including our happiness and success maybe the biggest one is to equip ourselves to face the monsters in our minds so when they come out we can survive them and maybe even learn to transcend them.
If we see you tomorrow night at the book launch then that will be our pleasure however if you can’t make it I hope you find a path that evolves you emotionally and you learn to reap the rewards of loving and caring relationships.