Let’s be honest, we know we are all facing a time of change, a time when at least one area of our lives is in turmoil or dysfunction. We also know that if we don’t deal with this area then the likelihood that the energy spreads to the other areas of our lives is high. Add to this that we are also in a time when we no longer have the luxury of taking a long and often expensive course of therapy to deal with this issue and the conclusion appears to be that we need to find faster and more effective ways to handle our issues.
We have long known that every action is driven by emotions and therefore emotions form the bedrock of our lives on which all our experiences and realities are built. It is also unfortunate that many of us and certainly our forefathers and mothers never recognized this link or if they did never gained the courage to actually go there. This fear of our emotions is therefore the biggest block to our easy and effective transformation.
Therefore we could say that any area of our lives that is dysfunctional or in a mess is because there is at least one emotion that we are unwilling to feel and feel deeply enough that we finally transcend it, we get past it and replace the foundation of our lives with more positive emotions that would serve us better.
Often when people hear of this healing principle – feeling our emotions until they transform – they will say they have felt their emotion but the situation has not changed. This is not the case as often we are willing to feel every emotion except the one we really should be feeling. If we remember that our world gives us pretty instant feedback on what we are doing, we can look for the signs that when we get it right things work out right.
Take a few moments today to look at one area of your life that is not working. You may have been tempted to blame someone or something else for this situation, but be curious about the underlying emotion that is creating this experience. For example, if you are exhausted and overworked what is the emotion that keeps you so busy? If you are fighting with a partner or a colleague, what is the deep pain that you don’t want to feel?
Be willing to make the time and space to feel whatever emotion wants to be felt so that the situation can transform easily and effectively. Share the feedback we’d love to hear it.
Sue and Jeff