How often do we comment or even complain that, if only we didn’t have a worry about this or that problem, life could be so easy and peaceful? We then create these fantasies about the past being so great and if only we could get back to that then we would be happy campers. The other side of this coin is how often do we think that, if only this person was like this or that situation was like that, then we could be happy? Most of us spend a lot of time wrestling either internally or externally or both with our picture of how we want things to be, and this attitude can block our change and our learning. Even when we solve one problem, another seems to pop up almost immediately and they become the background of our lives.
Supposing instead that we remembered that whatever is going on for us is part of a curriculum we are being presented with; not only that, it is precisely tailored to be a perfect learning ground in some way and if only we took the curriculum life would work out so much better. But most of us have a bad attitude to our learning and transformation, which is so often reflected back to us by our fear of major change or resistance to our own change. This makes change a nerve-racking experience leaving us on the edge of a nervous breakdown but we could make everything so much easier if only we changed our attitude towards our healing and evolution. Having an attitude that sees problem-solving as a great adventure and a fantastic journey then opens us up to a much better experience and fun solutions instead of seeing our healing as an endless number of visits to the dentist.
Maybe for you right now it is a complaint about a work colleague, or there is the pain of a personal loss, or frustration that a family member won’t change. Maybe you hunger for that great job, or perfect partner, or new baby that would solve everything. Whatever the scene, does it transform if you welcome it as an opportunity? Is there anything in this situation that reminds you of a former time, either in what is actually happening or in how you feel as a result? Was there something about your world that you refused to learn then, that you are being given another chance to learn now?
If we welcome a problem situation as bringing some new emotional meaning, we set ourselves on the path of being happy learners and life becomes an adventure to be shared.
Love, Sue and Jeff
from the huge city of Guangzhou, China, north-northwest of Hong Kong.